Parents - How build a culture of life with your children
Here are numerous ideas for parents on how to teach children at each stage of development about the sanctity of pre-born life:
Starting from infancy, build a foundation of truth.
Parents are a child’s first teachers, and the messages we share with them from an early age impacts how they see and experience life.
Training toddlers opens up their eyes to God’s creation.
Parents guide toddlers in understanding the world. They are awed by nature, animals, and newborn babies. It’s our job to foster this awe.
1.Next time you are at a clothing store, show your toddler the different sizes of baby clothes. Teach how a baby starts so small that we can’t see it, to being big enough to fit into those clothes.
2. If you have a pregnant friend or family member, ask her to share a photo of an ultrasound. If you have an ultrasound photo of your child, share that and rejoice over the different parts they see.
Elementary school is an age of discovery.
1.Look at the national geographic video "In The Womb". Fetal development is described in detail.
2. Write your a list of interesting facts about babies within the womb such as: By week eight every organ is in place and growing, and at week twelve an embryo has fingernails.
3. Read Horton Hears a Who, by Dr. Seuss. The story is about an elephant named Horton who hears a noise and discovers there’s a colony of “Who’s” living in a dust speck. He rescues them and receives mocking from a kangaroo who thinks Horton is a fool for trying to save something that doesn’t exist. One great line from this book says:
“Should I put this speck down? …
If I do, these small persons may come to great harm.
I can’t put it down. And I won’t! After all
A person’s a person. No matter how small.”
Have your child describe how this is true for preborn babies, too.
During the teen years, children make their parents’ beliefs their own.
During your child’s teen years he or she will choose to focus on the world’s beliefs versus his/her own. Here are some ways to remind your child that beliefs mold futures.
1. Collect baby photos from family members. Look through them and discuss how each person in your family has made an impact. Discuss what life would be like without one of the family members. If someone in your family chose abortion, discuss how our low value of pre-born life impacts families … and generations.
2. Watch the movie October Baby and discuss the pain of abortion (both to the mother and the child). Together, study post-abortion syndrome and discuss the suffering women face even after they make a choose to have an abortion.
3. Print up and read through the brochure “The First Nine Months.”
4. Discuss abortion. Compare abortion with adoption. For example: Unselfish love and sacrifice for child versus covering up sin and mistakes … Ending a life versus providing a gift to another.
10. Role-play with your child how to give advice to a friend who finds herself facing an unplanned pregnancy. What hope do you have to offer? What facts does your friend need to hear?
As you can see, a parent’s role transforms from introducing your children to their place in God’s creation, to helping them understand that what they believe can impact others. Pre-born life is important and it’s beautiful. Who better than children of all ages to acknowledge and proclaim that?
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Parents and their Childrens Unplanned Pregnancy
It is normal for parents to have strong feelings about their daughter’s pregnancy. As parents your first priority is to protect your daughter and her future. It is normal to feel worried, sad, angry, or frightened. What you say to your daughter (or son) who is dealing with an unexpected pregnancy is very important--your child needs you now and your involvement is valuable.
There are times in all of our lives when we have something important to share, but we can’t find the words, or the courage, to share it. Right now, your daughter(son) needs your help and support. Your first reactions may be shock, anger, disappointment, sadness, and fear. You may have suspected for a while or you may have asked and she may have denied. People in difficult situations use denial when faced with circumstances that seem overwhelming. And, you may be feeling overwhelmed, too. If you have another adult with whom you can talk and share your strong feelings, it will help. After your initial reactions, which you may want to keep private, you will be searching inside yourself for understanding, patience and compassion. Remember, your daughter has chosen to come to you with this crisis. Now you must decide how you will respond to her display of trust.
You are not alone. If you cannot discuss this with your faith community, family members or friends for "fear" of what they may think, call us! You need a safe place to share your feelings too!